The last in a great series on NPR titled "Women in War." Army Brig. Gen. Heidi Brown describes what happened after nine soldiers under her command were killed:

"I had my driver drive me over to him, and we just bear-hugged one another and he wept. And I let him, and I just bit my lip because I knew that I needed to be strong. Did I want to? You bet I wanted to cry," Brown says.

But as a woman, she felt that she couldn't.

The audio is better at conveying the emotion, of course. Oh, and coincidentally Heidi Brown is from El Paso.